And I'm not just saying that. If you could see the hate in her face, hear the hate in her voice. Such bitterness--to tell me that she should have left me in 1995--wow. Even if she does come back, I'm always going to be thinking she doesn't want to be with me. For God's sake--it's 2009. Why the freak would you hang out for that long?
AF -- are we in a bigamy situation, here?!?! My WAW said just about the same thing yesterday a.m.!
I've been all up in my head lately -- bad, bad thing to do -- and wrote the outburst off as just being mean, but there's always a kernel of truth.
But I think it's today's truth, not yesterday's -- in other words, she's evaluating the past through today's emotions.
But in either case, I think your conclusions are right on. If that's her attitude, it makes it a lot easier to move forward. Because, really, is that the person you want?
I think we LBS's often seem to forget, or not consider, the fact that our WAS's are changing even while we're changing -- no matter how high or low the probability is that we reconcile, "that" marriage will not be the same one that we used to have.
It's a new marriage that just happens to have the same people in it. So when I think about reconciliation, I have to think about that "new" marriage -- is this someone I would ask to marry me today, and not "why o why can't I have my old wife back?" Sounds to me like you've been asking yourself that question in a way, and the answer is, "Not so much."
