PM Thread #4

[PositivelyMommy]

Good news!

I think there is trouble in paradise :/. H shows up with red eyes as if from crying. A spat? It is the weekend of one-year anniversary of second bomb when I found out about OW. Maybe OW is demanding public recognition or something else. Who knows? Not wasting any more brain cells on what she is up to. Just glad that he is not all happy and in denial. This afternoon he takes a nap. I am thinking they were fighting and stuff and he has lost sleep. Gooood. This is the man who said to me that OW wanted nothing from him. Yeah right! No one wants NOTHING. Everyone wants something whether it's attention, money, love, companionship or whatever. Hello! Denial! I think he is finally coming to the reckoning of what has happened and who he has gotten himself with. Our C tried to tell him that all women are emotional creatures. H wouldn't believe him. Ummm. Now he is learning. He just traded one set of problems for a bigger set of problems. Should have just worked on our M, then wouldn't have another woman and extra finances to deal with. Not to mention worrying about the kids and their wellbeing. Ha! I can vent here but would never rub his face into that, it's not DB.

Hopefully this will push him to then next Stage of MLC - Depression. If not, I will be seeing more of Replay behaviors. No guarantees he will come back, of course. But if there is trouble in paradise at least there is a small chance that he will come out of A with OW. Which is a cause to celebrate.

Yesterday, we were having so much fun with kids, I could tell that H was reluctant to go. Boy did I DB my as* off, all smiles and fun and light-heartedness. Riding on D's scooter, having a blast. H was all quiet and solemn, I didn't pay any attention to him at all. Gradually he came around and got less tense. Was I blind or did I not notice that H has turned into a grumpy old man these last few years? Anyway, H was reluctant to go, I gave a quick farewell and off I went. Let him wonder what fun he is missing.