Just keep swimming...PH #5

[pearlharbr]

SMW - ROTFLMAO!! Those are good. I really like the lawn one because it's pretty permanent.

I actually haven't had those elaborate plans running through my mind. Just that I wanted to call her parents (who I have met) and tell them what a little skank she turned out to be and that I'm sure it isn't their fault because they seem like lovely people.

Mostly I just wonder WTF because I know I'm better looking, smarter, funnier, more cultured, etc. Again, not spending my days on this, just the occasional thought and not really at all since freedom day.

Ok, I'd better run and get gussied up for the steakhouse!

[pearlharbr]

Question if anyone is around today:

xBF's mom sent him something in the mail that arrived yesterday.

Should I tell her that he hasn't lived her for six weeks and she needs to get a current address for him?

Or do I just leave the letter in his pile of mail for him to retrieve whenever?

I'm not surprised that the he hasn't told his parents anything. I'm sure they don't know we've broken up. The only reason they know something is wrong is because I sent them an email exposing the affair and telling them it's his choice to do this, not mine.

I guess I'm just looking for someone to slap me on the wrist and tell me not to say anything. I know it won't accomplish anything. I am just so tired of him hiding everything, I want it to be out in the open.

[Tawnya]

LOLOL {{{Pearl}}} Well you know my philosophy on it..but, in hindsight, maybe not saying anything and leaving that to him is the best way to be?? I dunno..

Curious what the more "level headed" ones on here will say

Tawnya

[Silver Fox]

Hey Pearl,

Since you've already exposed the A to them I'd say you've done your job. It's his now to tell them he moved out. Perhaps it's just wishful thinking from the mom - hoping since she hasn't heard anything that all's ok now.

You could send it back - return to sender - but that's a little cold if you've had a good R with her in the past.

I'd leave it in the pile of mail if you've already started one for him.

You could throw the pile in the litter box.

[kassie]

I would just put it with the other mail. Let him deal with his behavior and family.

[Tawnya]

I like Silver's litter box answer the best LOLOL

Tawnya

[pearlharbr]

Unexpected sadness and tears.

Watching "Little People, Big World" and the Roloff family is taking a riverboat cruise on the Mississippi. We had talked about doing this trip with xBF's family and his brother's in-laws (we like the in-laws, they're actually more fun than xBF's family).

The ship is beautiful, a recreation of an original steam ship from the 1800s. The historic decor is beautiful, something we would have both enjoyed.

I'm just sad thinking about all the things we had planned or wanted to do together that will never happen now. I know I can still do them by myself or with someone else but it won't be the same.

[pearlharbr]

Journal:

I thought I was over all this. I expected some pangs of sadness but this is worse than I thought it would be. Not sobbing, just tears and a sense of loss and anger.

Why did you do this to us? If it was really that bad why didn't you tell me? The problems could have been solved, but I don't think the trust can be rebuilt after all the cheating and lying and lack of true remorse. Despite your letter, perhaps you don't really want to fix it anyway. You're certainly not acting like you do.

I don't know what I want. I don't know if I'm just missing my vision of the future or if I miss that you won't be a part of it. I'm trying to focus on a new, exciting future. Not necessarily a better one, but a different one.

I know life isn't fair. I know life is pain and anyone who says differently is selling something. That doesn't mean I have to like it.

[Tawnya]

{{{Pearl}}}} Yeah it's crazy when those out of left field moments come up and hit us isn't it?? You know it would be weirder if we DIDN"T have those moments after all of the time we have invested in these relationships you know?

How are you today my friend??

Did you go out with your purple pumps last night??

Tawnya

[pearlharbr]

Thanks for the hugs Tawnya. I think I'm back on track today. You're right, it would be worse if I didn't have the bad moments.

Purple pump details on the DA Club thread.