Thanks all...I think he is just being an energetic boy, too. But I was more concerned with what came out of that conversation, where he is crying in bed at night b/c he misses his dad and wants us to live together again.
I am honestly amazed and almost speechless that my husband has not tried to speak to me or Nathan today.
As suggested, I relayed to him "Just the facts" last night. Or at least I felt I was objective. Here was our text exchange. A couple times one of us was still typing a reply when the other sent a message so it may seem a little disjointed.
ME: Didn't want to interfere with your trip but we need to talk about Nathan. His teacher sent him to the counselor today w some other boys for fighting again. We talked this evening and I need to share some of that with you when you have some time. Thanks
Dan: Dog gone it. Kids picking on him or what?
Dan: My phone is dead or about there and I have a 2 hour drive to the hotel. I will charge it and call first thing in the morning
Me: (I was typing when he sent the second part above) No-he told me four things. 1)dad said he used to play fight as a kid and nobody cared 2)he starts out just playing and gets carried away 3)Carter likes to play fight and coerces Nathan (Carter is his best buddy) 4)Nathan cries in his bed at night because he wants us to live together and he misses you being here and he is sad. Talk to you tomorrow. (I added that last line after I saw his message re. phone being almost dead)
Me: Also he told me last night that he doesn't pray for us to get back together anymore because he knows we will, just like he knew when God put Gigi in my tummy. (Nathan told me when I was pregnant. He knew before I did, he said God told him there was a baby in my tummy.)
Dan: OK so now I feel 2 inches tall
Me: Don't beat yourself up we will figure something out together. You need to do what is right for you and we can figure out how to help Nate no matter what happens
Now I am wishing I hadn't replied like that. I guess now I think he should feel badly and realize his actions affect our family. But I did send that reply, so it is done and can't be changed.
Thing is that was over 24 hours ago. No call first thing this morning, no call or text of any kind. WTF... I always thought his kids would be a priority even if I wasn't. Saying you feel 2 inches tall doesn't change the fact that our son is hurting and we both need to deal with it.
I haven't contacted Dan either, by the way. There is nothing else to tell him at this point.
