My stbx is exactly the same way. He will not let his wall down AT ALL! We get along perfectly fine and see each other at our kids functions 2-3x/week. He doesn't talk about anything R related ever. He won't reply about anything to my messages unless its about the kids. I've asked him why and he just says he didn't know the answer (to the particular question I asked). Why doesn't he just reply and say that? Who knows?!
scrappy, It's good that you have contact with your H. It's possible that he really doesn't know how to answer your questions because either he doesn't have the answer (due to his confusion and MLC) or he doesn't want to hurt your feelings with the truth.
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He acts like we are not even married...or never were married! No emotion at all. Our anniversary is coming up on 3/18- 19 years. I am quite sure he will not say a word. He obviously still wants this D based on his behavior and the fact that he is not stopping it, though he sure does move VERY SLOWLY on things. I thinks it's his depression/drinking (alcoholic).
It's a positive that he's not in a hurry. He can't be too serious about the D if he's dragging his feet about it... Take advantage of the delay.
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It's very weird to me how he can just keep stuffing all the emotions inside...what can you do? What will he do with it? Its so unhealthy. I wonder if he has someone else. Does your ex/stbx have someone else? I wish I had the answers....I feel your pain!
The emotion stuffing is part of the MLC and denial. Yes, mine has. Take care. Sorry about the delay in responding.
