Yep! But the Navy requires his services elsewhere for right now. Hopefully, though, we will not have to get to the point that the courts will not have to slap him around to get him to come to his senses.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Ha! SMW, I was talking about my H's OW! But your H could probably benefit too!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Ha! SMW, I was talking about my H's OW! But your H could probably benefit too!
Oh definitely OW should be there! LOL
I think the WAS with kids should sit through a couple custody hearings. It turns my stomach the wrangling that goes on and kids are reduced to nothing more than names on a piece of paper. Oh, but wait, that would mean they might still have a conscience and we know that most do not.
I will just let base legal straighten out DH, if it comes to that. If I have to counter-file something, It will go to DH's command. Then he can explain it, as he would not only be in trouble for violating the UCMJ, he would also be shunned for it after parading me in front of all the chiefs last year when he was selected.
The financials in our instance are mind-boggling, but in our case, for DH, it would definitely be "cheaper to keep her". 60% of his base pay, all of his BAH, and I am guaranteed half of his retirement and his military savings. His half is negotiable. I have not worked in 5 years and all of my bills are paid off. There is only one joint account left and he will not give me my card for it. Oh, and then there are my student loans, equaling over $50K now, plus law school. I hope he is praying for me to get a scholarship. I get the bigger car, which he is still paying on.
I would still rather have him than all of the money. He means way more to me than that, anyway. But, I will not be foolish if it comes down to that.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Silver, you have a great plan and I'm sure you will be magnificent in the mediation. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help. And let us know what the final outfit is!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Silver, I want to hear the final outfit decision too. I hope his jaw hits the floor. Oh, & love the nickname for OW. LOL
Could you come up with a nickname for my H ?
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I would still rather have him than all of the money. He means way more to me than that, anyway. But, I will not be foolish if it comes down to that.
My thoughts exactly SMW. I know it sounds like I've had enough, and I have - of his foolishness and his A - but I don't hate him, just hate what he's doing. And there comes a time, as many others are finding out, that your financial future must be protected.
As far as an outfit - I've decided on sleek black pants (or a skirt) and a white blouse. H is used to seeing me in sweats or jeans. What about these choices? 1. an orangy/red cardigan sweater - red for power and it's H's favorite color 2. a blue cardigan sweater - for cool and calm or 3. a black jacket - for all business And I will wear black heels, not that H will notice, but I usually wear sneakers or Dansko Professionals.
Smartcookie - you asked for a nickname. I posted on your thread, but what about Tighta$$.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
