Keep taking it day by day. The OM is that gooey, nasty bandaid. She is shifting toward you...and yet he's still like this addiction, a safety net in case you prove to her you're still the same old guy she left.

It's not easy...my H still works with the woman he had an EA with and was hiding social contact with her a year after he agreed to keep it just business. I have to keep reminding myself I have no control over what he does, only what I choose to do. I look at what's working for us, I control what I can, and I let go of what I can't.

If it's not a deal breaker to you, then put the OM out of your mind. You will deal with that whole issue later...much later. Your priority is to work on you and begin to rebuild your M with your W when she is ready.

What are you doing to work on your temper?

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!