Ann, Just read some of your thread. Want to say, my M hasn't been so long as yours and our stitch is so different, but what I hear the same is this: I am tired of all the arguing. We tried MC, IC, and now are separated. Still arguing. I would like to know when it stops, but I suspect that it stops when you both figure out the changes needed. My thoughts are that M grow and change over time just like people do. During those changes, M can get stressed and if there is no growth, on one part or the other, it breaks down. Not that people have to D but they need to stop and evaluate what doesn't work between them anymore and start figuring out what does work. Lots of compromise and commitment. Problem in your stitch and others here is the role of dysfunctional patterns and whether or not the couple is committed to change. I also think that it is easier to bob and weave than to really be committed given all the pressures of our world. It is up to you to determine if there is commitment and change or not. I hear you saying that there is some of both, but it isn't working right? Can you describe exactly where you both are in this M?
