It's been a while since I've been on the BB, but seeing as we've talked this one over some, I thought I'd pop on and post my $.02 here for the folks about your original post.
Folks, I know no one can really say, but this sounds to me like someone popping his head out of the tunnel for a look around before diving back in again. It seems he's starting to wonder about some things, but still doesn't have the answers or know how to find them.
Whatever else may be going on in his head at this point, it's clear that he still feels a connection to G. and sometimes acts on those feelings, like calling occasionally, looking her up on the web, and suggesting this latest get-together. I thought his dream about their house very telling (his inability to get back to what he'd lost and that being a "bad" thing). Maybe he was looking for some bit of closure or forgiveness, but I suspect he's still trying to figure out where these feelings "fit" in with his current self.
G. also shared w/ me some additional things from his conversation that sounded to me like pure projection about his own self image and issues w/ his family. He'd also had something to drink before he and G. met. I have the sense that he's still pretty deep in the tunnel, not ready for any meaningful reconnection.
BTW, for anyone who doesn't know G., she's not sitting around wringing her hands over this or waiting for XH to come riding up on a white horse. She's got her own life and is a pretty together, independent chick.
Hope all my old pals are still hangin' in there. My H is long gone, but one of these days I'll have to do a 5-year update just for kicks.
