I spent quite a pleasant afternoon with the "hiker". We went hiking for over two hours and went for a coffee afterwards. He is quite a nice chap and not bad looking either. But he has strange habits and he told me that he never goes out on his own and hardly ever goes to the theatre. He would come along though.
He would like to see me again but frankly, I cannot imagine that we have anything in common apart from hiking. He was never married and had several relationships. That is not a very good sign for me. When he asked me about my R I told him that my XH and I were together for over 30 years.
I called my XMIL today. We chatted for quite a while and she told me that she has not heard from my XH since November! Apparently, XH writes to his siblings but rarely and only one to two sentences. I told her about the withdrawal stage and that he is not the only one acting like this. She said that he must have childhood issues probably resulting from his R with his father, and that he needs help. I told her that he has to hit bottom and to find out for himself that he needs help. I also told her that the D is final.
XMIL also told me that I should live in the present and enjoy life. One only gets one shot at it. I told her that I met a lot of nice people lately and that I am going out often.
I need to go to bed early tonight since yesterday I got to sleep very late. I went to bed late and was just not able to fall asleep.
