Thanks so much guys. It is so good to know that others are out there going through the same thing. I posted on the other board, and didn't get much help. He fits all of the symptoms of the MLC. However, he also has always had trouble telling the truth when he has done something that will make me mad/upset me. I also believe that he has been depressed for at least 2 years, and refuses to get help or stay on meds. That would probably make a world of difference, but we can't make them do it, can we.
Pretty much the reason I finally decided that we must separate was to financially protect myself and the kids. He was doing crazy stuff with money, trying to buy a buisness without my knowledge, etc. I don't make a ton of money (teacher), but I can support myself and my kids. Not in the house we were in, so that's why we chose to move. The child support he's been giving me gives us a cushion. What I make pays the bills, food, and gas with only a little left over. I don't feel that he is trying at all except by giving us money.
After he took my daughter around OW (who he claims is not an affair, whatever) I decided that he is mentally unstable and I need to at least have the papers drawn up, even if I don't file them right away. Right now, if he wanted to cut us off financially, he could since there is no legal order. He could also come and demand to take the kids and we would just have to fight about it, since I have no custody order. I'm scared to not get myself legally covered. If Texas did a legal separation, I would do that but they don't. Either you're married, or you're divorced. Hard choice, but we need to be protected financially and custody wise.
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