No worries! I love a bit of a financial riddle me, I considered being an IFA at one time (until I realised they are a bunch of salesman and aligned to the devil, so went off that idea).

"How do I fix this now? I feel silly if I send a text saying no to worry so I suppose I could just wait and see if he responds."

- no, just be normal. How would you handle it if it was an old friend? You'd send a text saying.. oops, scrap that, just realised we can stick to the mortgage holiday for the remaining 4 months and hopefully get an offer on the house in that time, which will lessen outgoings for now. Let me know though if you do want to resume paying, otherwise, we'll leave it as is. Hope you're well/your leg is better/footy was good last week (some innocuous friendliness), J

or something !? Maybe leave it until Monday morning though.

How do you deal with it? Separate his behaviour over an unpaid credit card over the fact he left you for a woman at work and wasnt even man enough to do the courtesy of TELLING YOU? Same for me Julia! I dont care he didnt pay a �60 bill, I care he baied on an 9 year R for a higher quota of BJ's per month, probably Sorry, in a funny mood tonight! You still going to C? Or have you been going? I did 14 months which helped but didnt actually 'cure me' of all of this hurt ... just time hey.

Al xxx