What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[PortlandDad]

When children are involved, you have to put aside the petty rivalries and arguments and think about what it best for them. Whether your WAS continues to have contact with them or not, they need to be reassured that both of their parents love them and that what is happening is not their fault.

MC is totally correct: kids will recognize which Sp walked away and which one stayed. Unless your kids are extremely young or materialistic, they will recognize when they are being "bought off".

My W, for example, took all 3 of our kids shopping just before she left. She spent over two thousand dollars on new clothes and electronics for them. Did they like going shopping? Sure, they are teenagers. Did they recognize what she was doing? You bet they did. In fact, my D12 even asked me afterwords if I thought she should return all the stuff mom bought her because she was worried that it would cause our new family some financial hardship.