Oh upgrade.....I feel so bad for you. My only advice regarding confrontation about OM is that when I confronted my H about OW the day after Valentine's Day...it kind of blew up in my face. I asked the question "do you still want to be married to me" his first response was yes, but then over the course of a few hours and us talking, he convinced himself that our issues were unresolvable. I wish I had never confronted him with the valentine's day card with "her" initial on the envelope. I wish I never found the notepad that had the name/location of the place they went on V-Day. I wish I could take it all back....even if things were strained before, the "move-out" talk would not have happened. EA/PA is unconfirmed but highly suspected. My H is still living here, but similar to your W makes himself very scarce. Gym twice a day, long bike rides on weekends, etc....
So if I had a do-over, I would wait to confront. That's just me but I do wish YOU the best with whatever you decide.
Your post really touched home and I feel so bad for you. Keep your chin up!
Abby
Abby, I don't understand: what good would waiting have done? What, ignorance is bliss? Your husband was cheating on you; you had every right to know what his intentions were regarding your marriage.
The overwhelming odds are that their affair would have only grown STRONGER the longer you allowed it to go on with the full effect of its secrecy and intrigue.
