I wondered if you may be able to help me with something. In December my stbxh asked me to go on a mortgage break for 8 months I agreed on the condition it would be for a maximum of a month and then we would switch to paying an interest only mortgage. Well, I have been a bit lapse and only just got around to changing the mortgage. So I sent him a text asking if he was happy for me to restart the mortgage payments from April but could he let me know that day or the next day as I needed to send the form off for it to be processed in time. He texted me back that evening asking how much the payments would be and I answered him. Since then I have heard nothing (Thursday night).
The other issue is that he hasn't been paying into our joint bills/ debts for 4 months. I don't think he did this deliberately as I only just realised that I shouldn't be solely responsible for these. So I sent him an email laying out all the finances and apportioning them correctly. He hasn't answered yet except to say that he had received it but he was busy. Perhaps this was the wrong thing to do as it has always worked best in the past when we have met and come to a conclusion together it is just I haven't wanted to see him lately.
I don't know how to handle this really. I don't want to sound like a nagging wife etc as that isn't me anymore and it switches him off and I will get nowhere. I wondered about asking him if he wants to meet to chat it through rather than doing it over email - that has worked well in the past I could try telephoning him - that would be very different. Emailing/ texting to chase seems to me the wrong thing to do.
I am feeling very stressed over it all but I think because it is finance stuff and that always stresses me and I am transferring it over to h. Although he could at the same time help me out a little with it and be a little bit more responsible - argh I sound like his mother! I'd be grateful for any input.
I'd be grateful for any input.