Most Difficult Time of My Life

[Kokopelli]

Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement. I have already talked to my dad about it. I could not contain it. I am so (P*&#$#$ furious! But as Puppy said, now it makes so much sense why she is behaving this way. I was on the fence about moving out, but I have made my mind up...I am out of here. I still want my marriage to work, but obviously nothing I have done has worked. I cannot "act as if" and still be in the same household with her. I'm not sure if it's PA or EA, but they are sending lots of 2:45am messages. She actually instigated the messaging at 2:45. I am so hurt by that. The phone logs only go back until the 10th, but there is 1 # in particular she has been sending a TON of messages too. I called from my "blocked phone" 2 numbers and they are both guys. No answer, but VM came on with guys names.

I guess this is her way of really moving on. My current plan is to do as you suggest. I am going to collect more "intel" and not mention it to any one else. She's is going on a trip to CA this weekend, I will probably confront her before she leaves and ask if she's seeing someone. While she is there, I am going to move all my stuff into an apartment and terminate all our joint accounts. When she gets back she will be in for a surprise. Then I will confront her about it.

As much as I don't want to, I hope that me moving out jolts her into reality. I know it might take time, but at this point I have to for my own sanity. I will have to fine tune my plan as I go, but I am actually really clear on things right now. The intense pain inside is numbed a bit for now, but I have a feeling it is going to hurt a hell of a lot more than before shortly. I am absolutely devestated. I never in a million years would expect my wife to behave this way. It all makes sense now.