In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[Amy M]

((((sad))))!!

Morning to u...I hate that it got off to a tough start for you. I'm not sure I have the best advice...but, a few comments.

You have to decide that you can live without her. I thought you made that decision yesterday, but, you seem to have forgotten that already. I'm very affectionate and my H was not. The best thing someone told me about touching him, etc., after the bomb was...think of the most annoying person you know and imagine how you would feel if they just wouldn't leave you alone...that's how a WAS feels about a LBS who keeps pursuing them...touching them, trying to talk to them and get them to talk back. You have to learn to leave her alone.

For the conversation tonight, try to just keep telling yourself that you can live without her...you can...I'm proof of that. Once you realize that, you'll be able to be stronger when you deal with her. Try not to beg, try not to plead, try to validate her feelings..."I understand why you might feel this way. I hear what you are saying." That's all you can do. Man up! Let her see you as confident. Let her remember the man she married!

Tonight convo is not the end all. Don't treat it as that...if you can't validate, then just be quiet and don't say anything at all.

Have you read Divorce Remedy? If not, read it as soon as possible!

Good luck..I'll be rooting for you!

Amy