In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[Tawnya]

{{{Sad}}} Ugh..you are already having a heavy day and it's still way early in the day my friend!!

I did the "not tell my hub" where I was going thing because he had done that with me..he never seemed to care..but I don't think there is anything wrong with making them see you also can have a life that doesn't involve them..which is the point of DB'ing in the first place..for YOU!

Sounds like you are coming to that realization when you talked about what you are doing out of fear vs what is good and healthy for you! Figuring that stuff out will get you 1000 steps ahead of the game! Yes, we all seem to give others what it is we really need, the whole 5 Love Languages and that..

What I would say about what she said is to not put a lot of stock into it either way. If you read many of the threads on here, you'll see a spouse will say something one day and something else the next..the roller coaster you know?! The BEST thing you can do is just move yourself forward, however you need to do that, and HOPEFULLY she will come along for the ride. Either way, YOU will turn out better, stronger, and happier!

Hang in there and vent as much as you need!

Tawnya