Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[pearlharbr]

Hopeful, I just caught up on your sitch

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I wouldn't do anything right now. Your W is going through something but you don't really know what it is. You're still basing all of your actions, emotions, decisions on what she is doing, thinking, etc. I think it's best to try to detach more and focus on yourself.

You can't control her actions. Whatever she's going through she has to do it on her own. If you try to intervene she may resent you for it.

Here's the thing: if she wants to reconcile she will let you know. She will start to test the waters with you by being friendly, chatting. Or she will come right out and say it. Even if you don't think this is possible, it is. I thought my xBF would never admit to being wrong or asking to come back but he has.

So please just focus on you and really try to detach. Because if you don't work on yourself and figure out how things got to this in the first place you will repeat the same patterns in the future.

Go out and enjoy the weekend. Do something for yourself and try to let it go for today.