Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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I know it's Saturday but hope someone is around to help me.

I need someone to talk me down off the ledge or to tell me how to do what I want to do correctly.

I am pretty sure that W and OW broke up this week. Further proof of that is that W told me she was going out last night but only left long enough for me to go to my bunco group. If she and OW were still hot and heavy she would never have missed an opportunity to go over to her house. She could have even stayed late or overnight because the kids were gone last night.

So what really want to do is to tell her that regardless of everything that has happened I still love her and still want to work on our marriage. I would tell her that regardless of happened with OW (she thinks I think it is an EA not PA) I think our marriage can be mended and even if she and OW had slept together I would still want to work on our marriage.

The reason I want to do this is I am pretty sure that she thinks I would never stay with someone who had an affair. We have both said things like that in our marriage. I want her to know that now I am in the situation I don't feel the same and that I think we can repair the damage that has been done.

I haven't told her I love her or said anything about wanting to stay together in about 2 months. I have taken off my wedding ring and have put on a good show that I am moving on.

I just can't stand the thought that she might have second thoughts or be at a point where she could see her way back and not think I could forgive her.



I need advice!! What do I do?



This may be irrelevant but last night when I got home I said goodnight to her (through her bedroom door) but she did not answer. But then she visited my Blog and read it for few minutes. Then right before she got off line she went and looked at her own blog. Her last entry on her blog she put up Thursday Morning

"There are no regrets in life, just lessons." Jennifer Aniston
I have no regrets, perhaps someday I will learn the lesson

It made me think she was thinking about regrets.