Just stopped by to wish you the best. I know it's a tough decision - but sometimes it's those tough decisions that help us grow the most. No matter what happens with the future - you have to do right by you in the present - and I've seen how far you've gone in terms of figuring out what is right for you and your children. There are many ways we can teach our children - and sometimes we teach them about dignity by insisting on maintaining our own sense of self-respect and recognizing that a relationship we might have cherished was just not healthy for us.
I used to worry that the end of my second marriage would tarnish my older son's view of love and relationships - and while he's only 11, the conversations we've had about the recent changes in our life confirm for me that moving on was the best thing for all of us. He's happier now - feels safer and calmer - and is so very relieved to be in a house without any anger or tension. He used to watch B just flat out invent things about me and accuse me of things that didn't make sense to him (so he's told me) - and now there's no false reality that we have to filter out of our home...it's peaceful...still healing from a lot of pain and sadness..but with a profound sense of peace. Our family is now more of the type in which love can flourish since the specter of abuse is gone.
