Mindblank #2 - "Stuck as friends..."

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hmmm. you know what's wierd is that me and my H have never done that. the kissing/hugging thing. Sometimes I think we are still messed up in the head!! lol

So, if he's being that open with you on those things, I think this is a great time to be forward! Why don't you just try it once and see what happens. But psych yourself up, and prepare yourself. Expect him to reject you (I know this isn't acting as if, but I want you to prepare) and have a plan for when he does. Like your acting out a play or something. And I want you to say something complimentary... and you can just start out by giving him a shoulder rub. Have you done anything like that yet? It is a great start. You can say, hey, come here for a sec, and just start rubbing, and you could give a compliment about how strong his shoulders feel or whatever. Most likely he will not reject a shoulder rub, but even if he does, if your expecting it like your reading a script, then you'll know what to do afterwards...which would be, ooooh, your gonna miss out! you know how crafty these hands can be! and then just walk out the room with a sly look on your face... and then distract yourself quickly!

that's just MHO. I remember during my sitch, for some reason I was the opposite of most women here and couldn't stand NOT to touch my H. I mean I was pulled to him so drastically (fyi, that was after the 2 week depression and losing 10 lbs and then still a month later after recouping). I mean, I was so extremely turned on by him, and I'm sure it was because he had become something that I couldn't have. So, I wasn't on him all the time, but there were a few occassions where I was, and I know it helped. Even when he said no he shouldn't. Because one, it's an ego boost, and 2, he sees me being confident, something I definitely hadn't been for several years.

Now, if you were the one who always initiated in the bedroom, then this isn't really a 180, but in most cases, it's not the woman initiating, so I'm judging by that.


oh, and you find your confidence by GALing. You do not look for self worth from what your H says or acts. Your self worth truly comes from God and you.