Sounds like you're working through your situation as best as possible. I'm actually not that far from you and the lawyer (he's in norristown) I got is really good and priced better than other's I've talked to. Not sure how to get you a private message as I don't want to post this type of info. Perhaps someone can tell me how send the info privately.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13