Hi Coach, All things considered, I would have to say that I'm doing pretty well. A lot of the jarring process of separating our lives is now passed - and it's more of the practical matters that come up every now and then.
I'm still writing - and looking forward to having more time for my own writing in the near future. I had a large(170 page)freelance project that took up much more time than it should have - but I'm now finishing that up - which should leave a lot more time for my own writing.
Thanks for saying that you think I'm a success story. I can't say that I always feel that way - but I do know that I am nowhere near being the shell of a man that I was when this started - and I am also well on my way toward fulfilling some goals that I had set long ago - but which I had allowed to fade too far into the recesses of my life.
I'm still emerging from a lot of sadness - and I occasionally feel the itch and the pain from a wounds left on my heart and in my sense of hope - but I also know, without any doubt, that no matter what happens, I will be fine. I have to be. I really haven't given myself a choice in that matter - I just have to be - for my own sake and, more importantly, for the sake of my two sons.
In terms of my sons, I made a tough decision a few days ago that I'm still processing...namely, I agreed with my S11's mother that it would be best for him to be with her in Washington DC next year - rather than for him to be here with me. The plan is still for him to live with my while he is in high school - but as I looked at my situation and the complete upheaval of my life - and the extreme rebuilding still ahead of my (not to mention the looming divorce) - it became clear to me that while it might be wonderful to me to have him my S11 home with me next year - it would not be ideal for him. With his mother he would have a home, his step brother and his sister, he would also have her family nearby...whereas out here in CA, I am pretty much alone - no family - many good friends - but no family...that decision/change devastated me for a long day - and it still saddens me - but I know that I'll be able to make the most of it for my S11 and for me S2 and for me...
