Yoyo - My C calls what your husband does (and mine!) "the hook". Just in case they "might" want to come back, they throw out this hook and reel us in just enough to keep us on the line. Once I saw what H was doing for what it really was, it lost it's effect on me. I don't want to be someone's second choice. It sounds like you are coming to that conclusion, too.
It's definitely a process and, like you, it took me a long time, too. More time than most. It's ok. We're all on different timelines and you are obviously doing what is right for you.
Take Care, LO
Oh.. one more thing.. I agree that your H is scared to death about what you are going to get financially..
