My husband and I are separated because I did walk away. We both agreed it was the best thing to do.
After many months of reflection he realizes why I felt the way I did and how things got so intolerably bad.
A few weeks ago I reached my limit of "nothing happening". He met me for coffee and told him that unless something changes, I was done. He responded with his desire to attempt to reconcile.
Here is where I am disgusted and frustrated.
I told him that I need him to spend time with me during the week or his goal will never be reached (we are still separated). He agrees that it is a good idea to meet.
We never set up a time. I call him to ask when we are meeting this week he states "can I get back to you?". I ask again later in the week when/are we meeting - we set up a time this weekend and he adds that the fact he has a big project due on 3 weeks isn't helping this.
Please tell me I am not nuts.
Did he just say to his wife (me)who is ready to file for divorce that he can't focus his attention on the family/marriage because he is too busy???!?!?!?
Half the time I laugh that he is such a knucklehead that it is amusing, the other half I cry because I am just so sick of not being a priority in his life.
I want my family to be together, but I just can't bear to live my life like this.
If he doesn't "get it" now, I just don't think he ever will or is capable of it.
We have an appointment with our very good therapist on Wednesday - I think about not going because I am that close to throwing in the towel after 5 years of marriage hell.
