[PortlandDad]

NM:
I'm surprised that you haven't separated your finances sooner. Maybe your W wasn't spending as much as mine was, but I found that separating the monies was a great way to detach. I opened my own checking account and picked out my own check pattern, closed credit cards and join accounts, removed myself from cards where she was the principle, etc.

It hurt a little to actually close everything, but it was absolutely for the best. If you haven't done it already, you should also check with your L about the legalities of your situation and such.