Wayward Wife/MLC or Just Bad Behavior

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Fitz,

I am so sorry to hear that. I try like crazy to sound the medical alarm for people who (knowingly or unknowingly) have sex with their wayward spouses, but I come off sounding like a paranoid alarmist.

These risks are REAL, they are STATISTICAL FACT, and they increase arithmetically for every month an affair is not busted up. This is why I'm such a nazi about affairbusting!!!

Again, I'm very sorry -- please take care of yourself. You should consider starting a separate thread with just something like "PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHEN MLing WITH A WAYWARD SPOUSE" or some such. There's been a half a dozen examples on these forums recently of people getting Hepatitis, HIV and other STDs from their adulterous spouse. Maybe you can help someone else avoid that.

Puppy

[vickyd]

Fitz/Pup: thanks for the wake up call. I am one that's guilty of ML with a WS and I always feel that I am taking such a risk. I recently got STD tests done. Very scary I know.

Fitz: I am so sorry to hear.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Vicky,

I pray they were negative?

I had to get myself tested, too, as my wife refused to, even AFTER we reconciled. Too damned stubborn.

Puppy

[vickyd]

The tests done in the doctor's office were neg. Just did HIV test at the lab (scary). My H said that he also went and got tested.

[fitzge]

To the Above folks -- thanks for the words. I am not real happy about this. I get to follow doctors orders forever and hope the liver doesn't turn to stone.

I'll read that article and see if it fits over in this state.

[kat727]

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I had a scare myself but luckly everything ended up ok. That was the longest week of my life.

Did you let the W know or at least your L? I am keeping you in my prayers. You will get through this.

kat

[fitzge]

I have not let WW know. The mean vendictive side of me wants to hear that her liver and POS OMs body organs are rife with disease. I know that is childish.

I figure the doctor will have me list all my partners for the past X number of years so contact can be made. My list is going to be short = one person.

I will notify lawyer at some point and get an idea of my options. It could be just another round of throwing spit wads, who knows.

[fitzge]

Been about a year since I've been here. Life has turned out pretty good. Divorce was done about 9 months ago. One of the best things that ever happened to me. Money got split up, and I was off on my own. Overall things have been pretty darn good. No emotional or verbal beat downs, have meet some nice people, and have gotten out of the caudron.

Going dark on the dark one was absolutely the best way to handle the situation. To all how supported me, well, thanks much. Best to all others -- you will make it. Dump the problem causer and get on with the important business of living.

Bye -- Fitzge

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