In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[PortlandDad]

sad, I think you need to change your username. It was probably chosen at moment in time when you were broken up and hurting, and so it fit for *that* time. The problem is that you were living up to your moniker. Change your name to something hopeful, and see if that doesn't help lift your spirits a little.

Also, ditto the "grow a spine/pair" comments that folks are saying here. Coach and Puppy were brutal (IMO) to me, too, but they helped me see that there is right and wrong; what you and I do is right, and what our Sps are doing is wrong. Don't enable them, don't empower them, and don't condone what they are doing.

YOU are the only one looking out for you right now, and if you decide to shirk that, then you have no one. Be strong and be unafraid.