Maria - could it be that your H is feeling over-shadowed by you?
I offer this:-
Until recently I found myself being dictated to by my W about which day and on what night I would have H...
I am one pleasant, complying guy...I feel walked all over every time that happens...and I yet I comply - for some reason I have a guilty streak in me that means that i fold...despite the fact that now my W has an OM in tow - Now I have got to get tough! And get on with life.
But sounds like you're waiting for your H to do the same....one way or the other...
Kalni - there's no right move!!! Only you know that will be - but hey! Ask...cos I do have ideas...! But not at this time of night!
