Issuing an ultimatium might work and H might come scurring home ( I doubt it )
I had an A and exposure stopped it. It is like a bomb gong off. You scramble to protet yourself etc etc and the OW/OM does the same. The fairytale ends. Reality kicks in.
Consequenses are:
1. You tell OW husband and he kicks her out. She hooks up with your H and they think they can be happy ever after. NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. Each has so much s&^% to sort out that they cannot fixate on the relationship and then evryones warts come to the surface. Remember your H and OW are on their very best behaviour right now and are in honeymoom land. NOT REAL.
2. Ok you dont tell OW husband. They carry on happy lappy . No reason to change. It would be time and patience and you waiting till he has had his fill at the pond ( so to speak ) before he might consider looking at you again. If your happy for that to happen and put your life on hold , then go for it.
3. If you tell OW H and he knows already perhaps the 2 of you could share information which could work in your favour further down the track if you were to divorce
4. You tell OW H and she panics and drops your H like a hot potatoe !!!!!! And if that did not hapen immediately , i am pretty certain it would a few months down the track.
Dont envy you your decision and I have to say this decsion will not be the hardest you ahve to face.
