The she wanted to talk about our D12 and S17. I explained that they were doing fine
I would try to de-emphasize that the other two kids are doing "fine" to pound away on her guilt. Even saying their OK I guess and am thinking about counseling for them as well. If you get my strategy! Its rare for a mother to up and leave to a foriegn country on a different continent. She has to have alot of guilt. But in your case not enough to stay. The greater the weight of her guilt I think the greater the likelyhood of her returning. Just a thought.
