Now that I'm separated I don't have a bedtime !!! LOL
I don't get any pressure from anyone to do anything when I'm not ready to. (well, except for the 4 kids that think they can, but they're learning too)
Jeff, tell me more about your S14, maybe we can arrange something for when our kids are about 35 & ready to get married. lol
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I think we've talked the kids into not getting married until they are 30!
If it wasn't for the getting up in the morning thing, I don't know when I'd go to sleep. I'm a night owl, for sure!
(((((mishka))))) A QDRO is a Qualified Domestic Relations Order. A fancy name for the document that tells a pension plan or 401(k) administrator how to handle the division of retirement benefits. You'd think it would be simple.... but nooooooooo!
Other than the house, it's the biggest thing we have to worry about. In the long run, it's probably more important than the house. The 401(k) has taken a nosedive, but both of the companies that I've worked for for any substantial length of time have (or had in one case) pension plans that could turn out to be quite valuable over time. So it is important to make sure that the split is done right, to make sure we are both protected.
I used to work for a big transnational company and I'd always hear my colleagues talking about their "For Owe Wunq". I thought it must be some kind of specialist food (like that squeezy tube cheese stuff) until I went to visit one of our US sites once and asked someone if there was a place I could find it (I was thinking Chinese restaurant!). I guess you can imagine how much my American colleagues laughed about that.
W is going up to Flagstaff to bring S19 home for Spring break. She is taking the little guys up to go skiing again. I am planning golf, and clear off my desk at home! And perhaps do some nothing.
I get indigestion when I look at the value of my for Owe Wung!
