Time for me to confront my wife about how controlling she's been during our marriage. Why the h*ll wasn't I the WAS?

This is going to be ugly.

H40 (me)
W34 (WAW)
S6
T11
M10

Feb09: Need a break bomb
Mar09: I moved to apartment to GAL, PMA, NMMNG
Apr09: WAW 'dating' OM at work, positive around me lately.

My Sitch