Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

This afternoon I am taking the older 2 boys and heading off to meet some of my family at the beach for the weekend (yes, it will be cold). My W is staying at home with our youngest, and I am really looking forward to getting away.

2 months ago I would have been scared at the prospect of going away for the weekend for fear of what my W would do while I was gone. It sounds controlling, but that was the mindset I was in knowing that she was fully involved in the newly discovered EA.

Now I more detached (and have a gut instinct that the EA is really dead or dying) that I am pretty calm, and things have been tense enough here at home (my W and I are friendly, but she has been distant and uncommunicative recently) so I am happy to get away and have some space for myself.

I am also a bit concerned as to whether she will take care of herself over the weekend. Recently it seems like if I am around she cooks for the 2 of us and eats (We still have dinner together, she cooks and I clean up every night), but if I am not around, then she doesn't cook for herself and does not eat - and is getting dangerously thin.