My H was gone for 6 months. Yes, I agreed. Yes, I knew what it entailed. But also, he is military, so it's not like I would have really had a choice anyway.
With that said. Knowing what to expect and LIVING it are two different things. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't justify squat. "Why do you laugh? Change the name and the story is told of you." Put yourself in her shoes. Send her off for 8 weeks and leave yourself at home working full-time and doing everything and dealing with kid at college and another in high school. Do those things alone. You think you know what to expect, but truly, you really don't until you have to do it. Everyone loves to think oh, I would do this, or I would do that...but you really DON'T know how you are going to deal (or aren't going to deal) until it happens. Maybe there were a couple of weekends she could have flown up to be with you so you could have at least spent the night in the same bed.
Don't know.
But I do believe that regular business trips, etc, are a big contributor to affairs. I think it's even mentioned in the Not Just Friends Book.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
