Thanks for popping by. It's nice to see you. I'm glad you all liked the house! I loved it although CEO wasn't so keen at first, and the whole viewing was a bit wierd- the agent couldn't tell if we were together or not, and neither could I. At one point the agent asked CEO about what he does, and CEO replied in an ambiguous way that 'we actually both own a company together'. So maybe he doesn't know either. Anyway, we both thought the house was overpriced, but spoke about it again after the weekend and it turned out we'd both been thinking a lot about it independently. I don't think he'll make an offer on it until he's got an offer on his house, but we'll see what happens. He's also got some ideas about improving his current house
Things are fine here. H and I went out for his birthday last Thursday and had a delicious dinner at a posh restaurant. The food was delicious and at one point I was crying with laughter over a story we remembered about our first holiday together. It was a really fun evening and then next day H said he'd "had a great time with me" and that it had been one of the most memorable meals of his life. I was glad he enjoyed it because I did too. We're still exchanging e-mails every day and we're getting on really well- very happy with how that's turned out. I did tell H we needed to discuss the D, but we haven't done it yet. Maybe tomorrow if there's time- we're supposed to meet for coffee or lunch if we have time.
CEO..... I can't tell what's going on with him and it's driving me mental! (I might be becoming obsessed, which is very bad). For example, last night I sent him a text about a place he could watch the football. He replied saying "You are just too awesome" and there was a brief text exchange relating to football after that. All good. Except that today we exchanged some e-mails about work and it was all work and no play. Not friendly at all and I don't know why. The same thing happened last Thursday night while I was out with H, and subsequently on Friday everything was back to "normal". It's so inconsistent; I'd never get statistics on it. But then I see in his diary that he's put my birthday in there. His family's, his best friends', and me. ??? (I wasn't snooping- I officially manage his diary now for work). Anyway, we're going out for some drinks the week after next (K- take note!) so maybe he'll make a move after a couple of drinks then.
In other news, I saw the hot guy from across the hall in his pants today. He had a very nice bottom. He's quite sweet and has been bringing me tea when CEO isn't at work. I'm going to appreciate it even more now that I know how nice his legs are too!
I've started doing something I used to do years ago. This is going to sound a bit geeky, but there are always free lectures, talks and tours going in the City. So I'm going to lectures and learning about art, politics, law and stuff. It's really great. And speaking of bottoms, I've been doing Callanetics on my own posterior- it's perking up a treat and I'm so happy about that! Sadly I got caught admiring my new behind in the mirror as I was waiting for the lift this evening, but luckily only by the aforementioned hot guy so it wasn't as embarrassing as it could have been.
I hope you guys are all OK. I'll visit tonight and over the weekend.
I'm on and was hoping that I'd actually start my own thread but I suddenly don't feel motivated enough.
I wish you'd post more about your feelings and what you are thinking.
The other day I was thinking...wow, we've come so far, yes?
But, nonetheless, I still have a lot to say and I like keeping up with you all too . I'm probably WAY too reflective sometimes.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
PS: I've had probably one too many glasses of wine tonight. So if I'm not making sense, that is probably why. LOL!!
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
Hey Lisa! I agree with Beth..I am interested to know how you feel, its not obvious.. BUT.. if you are ok, and coping and feeling good (you sound good!) then all power to you and in fact.. lucky you!
I feel you are in a rut with CEO.. you were trying to reconcile with H until the new year werent you? And getting closer to CEO all last year, but in a controlled way.. so someone needs to break the impasse !! As I said before, I vote for getting squiffy with him and fessing up you find him attractive. If you alreayd tried this and it didnt work, then.. I dont know ! Although, working together is perhaps the sticking point for him?
As for H.. wow... did you never ask him WHY he left then and if he is now happy? If yuo are as close as yuo say you are and not bothered about him so much anymore (as you dont sound emotionally affected by him)... then I dont know how you are resisting having a 'closure' convo! Although, again, perhaps you have done and I missed it !!
So great to 'see you' here again and to be able to keep up with your developments and see things flourishing for you. You seem to have survived and more than survived in fact!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm so thrilled to hear you sounding so up and positive about things. You seem to have resolved so many of your feelings that you don't feel the need to express them anymore. Is that true? I've always thought your approach to problem solving was unique and maybe that is why you are uniquely healing so well! Good for you!
Love the exercise on the tush. Hopefully hot guy from across the hall will notice and make a move. That would be pretty fun, right?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks for visiting! You guys are all so lovely to me!
Handsome- I wish you culd see my posterior!
Beth- yes, we HAVE come so far haven't we? Definitely open a thread- I'd love to come and visit you.
Mishka- yes, that would be fun (and funny!). Actually I think the hot guy was going to ask me out earlier this week, but maybe lost his nerve at the last minute. I'll let you know if he does make a move! It's lovely to see you- you make me blush with the niceness of your post
Ali- yes, I think the CEO situation is 'stuck'. He's the kind of man who has to make the first move though, and I'm sure that if he was interested work would be the sticking point. On the other hand, he may just not be interested. We're going to watch the England match at the end of this month so he'll have an opportunity to do something then. If he doesn't he'll have missed the boat!
In terms of H, I don't really understand how a 'closure' conversation would help me(?). I'm sure he's not completely happy, and I'm sure that if I asked him why he left he wouldn't know (because why on earth would anyone in their right mind leave me?!). I guess what I'm saying is that I've moved on and I don't need a conversation with him to reinforce that. Hope that makes sense.
Beth, Ali- I'm not sure about what kind of feelings you want to read about? (Sorry!). Feelings about..... H? Life? Work? The D? Mishka is right in that I don't particularly have anything that I need to get off my chest, and I do think I my approach to my feelings and also to problems atypical. My friends say it's more like a man's approach than a woman's. Anyway, if you can give me some guidance about what you'd like to know I'll do my best to articulate it.
H and I had lunch today. He invited me, and we had a lovely time. Good conversation and it was a shame to leave, but I had to get back to work. As we were leaving I told him I thought he should pay the court costs for the D, and I asked him for the aubergine's address to complete the preparation of the papers. He looked a bit shocked/bemused when I said I'd talked to a solicitor; and he didn't send the address when we e-mailed this afternoon. Maybe I'll get that next week and then it's full steam ahead. I think even if he doesn't send me the address I'll get the papers done without naming her. (Just for completeness, I'm a little sad that we are getting the D, but not sad enough to not get it. So other than the very occassional sigh about it, I have no feelings about it to mention) (I have no idea if that last parenthesis even made any sense!)
although CEO wasn't so keen at first, and the whole viewing was a bit wierd- the agent couldn't tell if we were together or not, and neither could I. At one point the agent asked CEO about what he does, and CEO replied in an ambiguous way that 'we actually both own a company together'. So maybe he doesn't know either. Anyway, we both thought the house was overpriced, but spoke about it again after the weekend and it turned out we'd both been thinking a lot about it independently. I don't think he'll make an offer on it until he's got an offer on his house, but we'll see what happens. He's also got some ideas about improving his current house
He's quite sweet and has been bringing me tea when CEO isn't at work. I'm going to appreciate it even more now that I know how nice his legs are too!