I haven't been the best at DBing lately. I have been pretty fed up. I see my H is trying but his behavior has gotten somewhat strange. Our C has been telling us that my H should start spending several nights at my house. My H will make plans to stay but when it comes down to it, he will back out. For example, he will fall asleep on the couch and when I tell him I am going to bed, he stays on the couch...later he will come in and telling me he can't sleep so he is going back to his apartment. He obviously is having anxiety issues...but why???

We had a C appointment scheduled a couple of days ago but my H backed out at the last minute. My H has been complaining about having elevated blood pressure lately (he is on meds) so he went to try acupuncture that day and was told to relax afterward. I went ahead and went without him. I was so frustrated I was telling the C that I am done. The C told me to give him more time...another couple of months. The C said that it is apparent that my H is being forced to deal with his issues and it is manifesting itself in his hyper-tension. I'm not sure what to think of any of this. I talked to my H yesterday and told him that I don't want to do this anymore. He has no answers. He does want to work on things but is pretty clear that he is having difficulty with the thought of moving back in with me. This is all really getting to him physically...he told me that he thinks he will die if I am not in his life.