Hi peace- What are your thoughts on why your H's L would have crossed out that line of the agreement? It could just mean that if you did reconcile before the D was final, the terms of the agreement are null and void. Or it could possibly mean that the L and/or your H feel that the line is unnessary since they are proceeding forward with the D. I doubt it is worth putting a whole lot of thought into it.
Yes, your H has chosen to continue to avoid dealing with his issues, sacraficing your M, his relationship with his kids and even control of his business. Most likely your H will end up avoiding similar issues with the OW. Hopefully your H will go to C with an open mind and truly listen but he still may not be ready to hear anything he is told. Even if things don't sink in right away, they probably will later...when your H finally opens his mind, the gravity of your H has done will finally hit him. Who knows when that will be.
I know you are already doing this for the most part but, now you really have to drop the rope and live your life now as if your H is not coming back. Put your time and energy into your kids, your business and you. You will continue to grow and become a better person because of this tragedy. Your H is stuck and will have a lot of work to do to ever catch up with you. Who knows what will happen in the future but don't let that keep you from making your life the way you want it right now.
