Sounds like you are reacting to not being in the drivers seat in the R. All of the power in this R is still with your W - she calls the shots, sets the schedule, etc. You would probably feel better if you were not always just waiting for her to make the next move.
Not sure how you change that, however.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
