"Going Dark" - 101

[pauld2100]

More of the same!
Well I read back through some of these post and I am also don't understand it completly, I did see her for a day when my Mother had to go to the emergency room. It was a good day and she was even being suggestive about not getting any sex! I didn't respond to that because I know she has. she also sincerely told me she had a nice day. Now she also asked me to help her and why couldn’t’ I do that and have to live there to do so, I had not even asked to live there. I have not asked for anything but to go lunch once and church with her and the kids. She said yes both times. She didn’t make it both times but sincerely apologized on that good day about missing lunch! So the days after I did go by again and she seemed to not be as nice so I backed off again. I was emotionally distant before I left the house to stay somewhere else but still have not moved out. It seems that some things are working and some not. She has not contacted me since that day and had already started to make less contact before I saw her that day this is also while she had or still is dating maybe, I know it hasn’t went well with that for her. But I have not been asking about any of that. So doing more things for her could that get me out of the more of the same club? That was my 50% that could have pushed her to wanting out. So far I have been just doing a little at a time. I was really surprised that day that when I told her I couldn’t help because I can’t be in two places at once that was the time she told me she had a nice day. It is very hard to tell if she is dating but I can tell she is getting frustrated and worried about not having help. It’s like she wants me to help with the house and her everyday things that need to be done (and I had not done so well at that before so feel that would be a 180 for me) But I also can’t be doing this if she is out looking for Mr. Right also. I know I had baby steps happen but how do I continue. I have not tried to contact her since for a bit and wonder if that flirting with me was my signal to be more open. Any suggestions please….