Peace it's not that your h chose ow over you, it's that he chose a life that was easier. How easy it is to pick up a life with someone else. No responsibilities, no mortgage, not bills, no fighting, no kids, wow who wouldn't choose that over a M.
In the beginning it seems less complicated and easier, the problem is that just like every R it can get old especially when more of the difficult stuff of life starts creeping in. Like finances and responsibilities. Eventually true colors do seep out.
Your h will have regrets one day. Peace you can't let go, because you still love the h that you were M to. There is nothing wrong with that. You have depth and character.
Stay strong!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"