What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[PortlandDad]

If you read MWDs definition of a WAS, you can see the "script" that they follow. Woman are usually the relationship temperature takers; they decide when there is enough closeness, affection, etc. When that drops off, the nagging starts, which drives the men away, etc. etc.

The important thing to see if that when the W stops working on the M, they have drawn the "line in the sand", and they are simply waiting for the trigger. It seems like the trigger is most often an A with an OM, but it can be other things too. The "fog" that the WAS is in actually was planted much earlier, and once the trigger event occurs, they are on auto-pilot away from the M.

I do agree that forgiveness is important; but forgiveness is the gift that you must give yourself. Your W will forgive, but not until she is ready to come back. I think the ordering of those events is reversed: by GLA, 180s, etc. we cast ourselves in a better light, which works on our S to have second thoughts, and start dwelling on the positives, which drives them to a desire to try again with the R. True forgiveness follows as you rebuild and strengthen the R. Any forgiveness that is granted right away is likely transitory.

But that is just my opinion