In that time S20 went to colllege for the first time, S16 started H.S. among other things) and then we moved and my new job ate my lunch so I was gone A LOT and that's when the A started. Am I wrong here to think that my being away so much probably had a hand in the A? I know I can't go back in history, but it's something to remember going forward. Seems to me W was saying she felt ignored/not connected because of my travel.
Hard to say. Did you consult with her before you took these jobs/promotions that required all the travel? In other words, was she on board with it?
To me there's a big difference between a spouse who loooves the paychecks and the goodies that come along with all the work hours of their spouse -- and then complains "Oooh, I'm so neglected!" -- and one whose spouse just took the promotions and the travel and never sat down with their spouse to discuss the impact on the family, and to try to get some buy-in.
