Maybe I should be in piecing part 7?

[Hope4us]

Wow, this thread got interesting

Thanks for the comments everyone. So to recap, an "I love you" is ok as long as it's in the moment and not just an off the cuff statement.

Things have still been good. Last night we went to dinner with some of W's coworkers. W made a couple of interesting comments during conversations with the group.

At one point we were discussing work schedules and someone made a comment about 12 hour shifts. I said that I used to work them and would go back to them in a heartbeat, that my schedule was 2 days one week and 5 the next and everyother weekend was a 3 day weekend and W said "I loved it because H4U would do most of the cleaning, the grocery shopping and take care of the kids Dr. appts etc which took a big burden off me".

Ok, point to remember. W apprecaited all the stuff I did even if she rarely thanked me or complimented me on the condition of the house, etc.

Second interesting comment. We were discussing last fall when what remained of Hurricane Ike came blowing through Ohio. It was still a very strong storm and we had roofing blown off and a tree downed in our back yard. Lost power for about 3 days. I told the group that I gave up tickets for the Browns/Steelers that evening because I knew work would be calling and I'd need to go in because of the power outage. Someone in the group asked something that I didn't hear and W said "no, he's always traveling".

Ok, point number 2 to remember. Anyone who has been following along with me for the last year knows I've commented many times that in the year and a half prior to our relocation, I was traveling for work A LOT (right before we moved I was in MN for almost 8 weeks straight without a trip home. In that time S20 went to colllege for the first time, S16 started H.S. among other things) and then we moved and my new job ate my lunch so I was gone A LOT and that's when the A started. Am I wrong here to think that my being away so much probably had a hand in the A? I know I can't go back in history, but it's something to remember going forward. Seems to me W was saying she felt ignored/not connected because of my travel.

Besides that, everything is just plugging along. W still engaged and it seems different. I hope I'm not mis-reading it, but she seems more fog free. Let's just hope she doesn't have a relapse although I know they're likely.

One other interesting thought I had last night. The work group we were having dinner with was all the upper management at the Refinery W works at. A number of them I work with through my job. I can't help but wonder if W wouldn't have taken stock of the fact that there is no way in he!! that OM would fit into that type of situation. He's an alcoholic biker who's main wardrobe is Harley tee shirts and jeans. And W loves that kind of social gathering.

No offense to the Bikers who wear Harley tee shirts. That statement was in no way a disrespectful judgement on my part. But it's not my W and it's not me.

Talk to everyone soon.