It must have been difficult to deal with it mostly on your own, especially while having to keep strong for your kids. All for the best obviously, because I'm sure your friends and family would find it very difficult to forgive your h for having hurt you so much.
Do you talk to people about it now? It would be interesting to see if any of your friends have experienced the same thing. I was talking to my girlfriend/coworker yesterday about the latest (job loss). She has listened to every gory detail since last June, and we were laughing about how most people wouldn't believe me if I told them my whole story all at once.
Over the months of our separation, I wrote down all of the things my h said to me. It really helps to go back and read them whenever I start wondering what is wrong with me that h doesn't want to be with me anymore. Revisiting the contradictory, intentionally hurtful, sometimes crazy things that he said helps remind me that this is not about me. His financial irresponsibility and now losing his job also helps.
Yup. Lots and lots of gay guys at the gym and all different types as well. I always wear my iPod while I work out because I am WAY TOO OLD for the "house" music so aside from nods and smiles I haven't spoken with anyone yet.
Volunteering is also a good idea and I have thought about that. At the moment I am having a hard time considering making a commitment to anyone or anything. Does that sound normal to you?
