Got my onions, peas and early potatoes in - under cover...found a second pond that has got filled in over the years I guess...so started digging that out...
Had H from yesterday morning till just after lunch when W came and picked him up for a swimming party - but in that short time we have managed to:-
Go over some homework he has, introduce him to 21 up (cards - good for maths!, read books together, played badminton - he continues to improve - the 4 blokes next to us last night were "gobsmacked" at how good he is, laugh/joke all the time, have a knock at hockey / kick a ball on the Rec, visit the bookshop, carpet the landing, make lunch for us W and us and also he's been up to the shop a couple of times for me - just up the road and within sight - but he loves the responsibility of going with money in his pocket and remembering the things I've asked him to get - this morning was a paper, a carton of milk and a loaf of bread - and with the chance he could choose something for himself - I have to admit though that when he goes, i'm on the doorstep making sure he's got there - he heads off like a boy with the greatest responsibility he's ever had... and when I see him returning I dart back into the house as if I wasn't there at all! When he first did it I trailed him all the way down the road like a private detective! Darting behind cars and lamposts! LOL! But him being a boy would never have seen me! Natural I guess. Good thing is I know the ladies in the shop will help him out if need be and they know me so that's all ok...still this stage of helping a child into greater independence is VERY VERY scary!
We had a nice lunch and then W and H were gone.
I have a weird situation on Tuesday - W has invited me to go to a talk type thing at a local theatre by a famous mountaineer - she got 2 tickets - one for her and one for a friend who can't go...I'm thrilled at being asked - not least cos of the event! But - have absolutely zero expectations of anything other than enjoying the performance - still...strange...I assume OM is away, otherwise he would be going...
You did lose me by changing your name ever so slightly. I just saw the post directed at me. Sorry for not responding sooner. No harm done on that other thread. I just sensed people ganging up on her and worried that she would stop posting. As you may also have perceived, there are people on this board who insist that their way is the "right way", and get angry when someone doesn't take their advice. My point, and I think you agree, is that each person has the right to pick and choose the advice they want to follow, if any, and reject the rest. They should not be browbeaten by others for making the choices in their own lives.
Have just come in from the garden - where i have taken 3 leylandi (???) trees to task - buggers! I have about another 6 of them to go - all about 30 foot high! Ended up having to climb up one and then get my climbing rope around one to get it down to make sure it didn't fall the wrong way!
I love this board - but I agree - folks should be careful about the "advice" they're dispensing - for me its about finding an impartial "view" rather than seeking "advice" - and there's an important but subtle difference...
Hmmmm... just opened email from W sent last night - thanking me for great lunch and filling me in on a bit of detail from H's afternoon - he went to swimming party...and then she asks - do you have the chimney rods cos her chimney needs sweeping - and would I like to do it! Well I do have them...but thrown a bit on the invitation to sweep her chimney!
A few months ago I would have crawled over broken glass to do that - but acts of service like that for her have never got me anything in return - I tried that cheeseless tunnel for years!
She even offered to pay me!
I don't know what to do here - give her the chimney rods and not mention anything more, sweep the chimney for nothing - just out of kindness, do a deal - no need to pay me, just by me a meal out sometime, or perhaps treat it as a fair exchange for the theatre tomorrow eve...
Would yuo do it if it were a best friend? I would and like you say, hey, just buy me a drink sometime. You are in friendship mode and its very encouraging that she feels able to ask you to do such a job for her and you clearly want to oblige, so..
Yes say, no worries, I have the rods, I will come sweep it as thanks for the night out tommorow. Take a bottle of wine with you and have a drink whilst you are doing it! Again, as I would if I were visiting a friends house. Although you can only have a a glass or two (?) if you are driving !
I'm really glad she invited you to the talk to, sounds like a really good evening, somehting you will both enjoy. Can you suggest grabbing a bite to eat before, or after the show? (and whose having H?), make an evening of it?
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
OK - I have done the deal! Made an offer to sort out chimney next Saturday morning - and got a reply saying - "Big Thank U's".
It shouldn't be too much of a job - needs to be done in daylight I reckon cos I might need to get onto the roof - so wine is out of the question! Tea and biscuits will suit just fine!
well - here's my evening - went to the theatre with w - it was fabulous...Tim Emmett! Wow - wow - wow - what a climber - what a daredevil... great video clips of his escapades...a great evening and all the more enjoyable to spend it with my w...
All round - great show...
Nothing other than that...life rolls on...getting on with stuff...which is all fine...thats ok...but not what i would choose if things were different.
Just met a friend for lunch which was great and out tonight for works birthday do...then chimney tomorrow morning for W and then H and I till Sunday...
And have just booked holiday for H and I - activity week in Wales - 3 programmed activities a day - our feet won't touch the ground!
So - swept W's chimney on Sat morning...what an job! lots of stuff came down...clearly had not been swept for a while! Lol...W must have a taste for real fires now - with OM I assume - where was he??? Is sweeping chimneys not his thing???
Presumably he's too busy off doing his his thing - rather than taking some responsibility?
anyhow - climbing! Yeah! H did so well!! And I got a climb in too...then Thunderbirds film and then outside for a go go over the garden again...
H had one of the most memorable events of his life - I chopped down a tree and he was at the end of the rope shouting "TIMBER!!!!!" and then pulled it down! He was amazed, ...wowed!!! It was, he said, something he will always remember!
W came and picked H up mid morning...helped her with some files she had to email...
And then spent afternoon in garden trying to sort out other trees...
