Ah, my Air Force friend -- and congratulations on the BSM, by the way (just caught up on the thread) -- I would maintain that you don't need to know WHY she left, because none of us can know that. Like my W, yours seems to have a need to identify a Bad Guy. I remember back in the old days, on the firing range, the targets were all made to look like Soviet soldiers -- identify a bad guy and shoot better. So she'll be more than happy to tell you ALL the things you did "wrong," whether (a) you did them and (b) they were wrong or not! What I've finally got MY head around is that DB'ing is about identifying HOW you went wrong and changing that. But it seems to me that this is a process of INTERNAL discovery, not external.
A WAW/MLC'er will ALWAYS find a laundry list of things to blame us for. But if we take those things at their face value, if we take a WAW or MLC'er at their word -- and, really, how valuable has THAT word been recently? -- then we're letting THEM define US.
I had someone define me once. He was a Drill Sergeant, in 1983. He told me I was scum, the lowest form of life on the planet, useless to myself and my battle buddies when the sh*t hit the fan and the Russkies came pouring through the Fulda Gap. And he was right -- when the Big Day came, the DrHemlock standing in his starchy green fatigues in the hot summer sun WOULD have been useless to himself and his battle buddies. So I took it.
And thereafter, I defined myself.
Now WAW is trying to define me, like yours is trying to define you. But this time we're fighting on MY battlefield -- MY home, MY children -- and I'm trained. So I don't have to fight the battle on W's terms. Like a good tactician, I'm going to fight on MY terms.
Rommel! You magnificent bastard! I read your book!
