My wife actually told me about 4 weeks ago that she forgave me. I thought great! Then the but came, she said that she can't forget and doesn't know how to get past the hurt/pain, blah, blah, blah.
I was devestated again - I broke down and was a wreck because I thought that was the key.
What I realize now that forgiveness is just the first step, which may be the "easiest" for your spouse, but the hardest part is to rebuild/regain the trust that has been lost.
She had told me a couple of weeks ago that she still can't see trusting anyone, especially me, with her heart as I had broken/hurt it so badly. Again, I broke down, not as bad as I've been getting stronger, but I let her know how much it hurt me.
The key thing I'm focused on now is that in the past, I always thought that my wife was the soure of my happiness. I was so wrong. I realized that during counseling on Monday nite.
My wife is a source of her love for me. My sons are a source of their love for me. I am my source of my love for myself, which is the true source of my happiness.
Sounds like you have a great relationship with your daughter. Don't let this mess drown you in the muck to hurt that relationship!
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
