About the sweet, gentle kisses on her back... My H initiates that way, too. I can *sense* when he is timid and testing the waters to see if I'm going to respond. He's sweetly kissing me, but he can end it there without really turning it into an initiation. If I *respond* in the slightest, then he'll continue. The problem is this: He is making me *respond* before he actually goes in for the kill. He is making ME CHOOSE HIM. I hate it. Your wife hates it. If you had good sex on a regular basis, then the sweet approach might not be so annoying. She wants to be CHOSEN. She wants you to be the aggressor.
Thanks for that insight. I need to hear things like this. I didn't really understand the mechanics of the situation.
Also, you've mentioned Schnarch (Passionate Marriage) to me before. I didn't find it locally at a library. And it's sort of an expensive book, but I checked Amazon and it's coming out in a new paperback edition in April. I definitely plan to buy it.
me: 50 w (waw): 45 daughter: 9 m: 16 t: 19 bomb: 9/26/08 status: physical separation for 7 weeks, then work-in-progress R
